The most important thing you could do for yourself is to be kind and loving to yourself. We should be our own best friends, not our worst enemies.
My homework for y'all is to look yourself in the eye in the mirror and smile. That's it. Do it every time you see yourself. It might be awkward at first but soon enough it gets easier and then you can move on to something else to help you be more positive about you.
I can tell you....weight loss is not a cure all. If you don't figure out how to love yourself in your journey, there is no promise you'll love yourself when you reach your goal.
Be kind. You deserve it.